The summer continues to heat up and so do the opportunities to connect with others. The warm temperatures provide us with more ways to link with our friends, but have you taken the “temperature” of your friendships? Here are 5 Signs of a Healthy Friendship:
- Commonality: the foundation of any healthy friendship is commonality; having things in common with someone else is often the initial catalyst to bonding with others. As we grow and mature, areas of interest can shift and change. If this individual growth is in different directions, lack of commonality can become a stressor on the friendship. Do not be afraid to seek new areas of common interest for friendships that you value and do not be afraid to move on from the friendship if common ground can no longer be found.
- Mutual Respect: at the core of any healthy friendship is respect. Friendships can only enhance our lives when we feel the other person respects our differences as much as they respect our similarities. Respect is a two-way street, if you feel you are giving more than you receive, perhaps it is time re-evaluate your association.
- Reliability: is your bestie reliable? Are you? One of the key reasons we enter into friendships with others is because we often need others for support. Life is about relationships. Different friendships have different purposes, but one thing that is essential to the health of a friendship is that it can be counted on to give us what we need, when we need it.
- Trust: the great equalizer in any healthy friendship is trust. If you cannot trust your friend, if they cannot trust you, then not only is the friendship unhealthy, but it is also damaging. Unhealthy relationships not rooted in trust can actually harm us emotionally, physically and financially.
- Flexibility: no person on earth is perfect. We make mistakes, we forget, we are late, we are selfish, we are overzealous, we are impatient. A healthy friendship has enough flexibility to accommodate our imperfections without sacrificing commonality, mutual respect, reliability, and trust. If your friend can no longer be flexible with you, or you can no longer be flexible with your friend, it is time to determine if this friendship is fulfilling its intended purpose.
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